The inevitable question that all single guy or gal is bound to hear when you greet someone they haven’t seen in some time. “So, are you seeing someone” or “Is there anyone special in your life?” Now don’t get me wrong, I believe it’s nice when a person comes into your life and they show a special interest toward your life and how you are doing. However, why does this questioning have such a high priority in our conversations?
I have heard plenty of sermons that taught being single is a gift from God. When we approach each other and start questioning if there is someone special in that persons life, you partly take away the importance of this gift of singleness. I visited an old church not too long ago and within five to ten minutes I was questioned whether I was in a relationship with someone or if I was interested in someone by at least six different individuals. No, it’s not offensive by any means, but where are our priorities?
If we are teaching youth and the body of Christ that singleness is a good thing, why do we keep asking whether one is in a relationship? It seems quite contrary what we should be practicing. Paul teaches in I Corinthians 7:8:
“To the unmarried and the widows
I say that it is good for them to remain single
as I am.” (ESV)
It’s a GOOD thing to be single. Our society teaches that one is weak or inferior to others if they are single. How ridiculous! This couldn’t be further from the truth. The other part is that so many singles believe they will be fulfilled once they are in a relationship with someone else.
There is only relationship that will ever fulfill you and so much more. This relationship comes above all else in life. This is your relationship with God. We neglect this relationship so often. Our conversations should move away from where one is in getting into a relationship with another person and into the pursuit of ones relationship with God. If you know me by any means, I love asking the question, “How’s your relationship with God.” I don’t care how many people say that you have a strong relationship with God. My desire is that you keep pursuing Christ in all that you do. He is the ultimate source of fulfillment.
“If Christ is not all to you He is nothing to you. He will never go into partnership as a part Savior of men. If he be something He must be everything, and if He be not everything He is nothing to you.” ~C.H. Spurgeon.
Push for asking others how their relationship with God is doing and what God is teaching them. That is incredibly more important than asking whether they are interested in someone. Never assume that ones relationship with God is going well. Always pursue into someones life in how you can encourage and grow them in their personal growth in Christ.
“Iron sharpens iron,
and one man sharpens another.”
~Proverbs 27:17 (ESV)~
If you really want to get to know someone that is walking with the Lord, ask them about that very walk. We need to be more encouraging toward singles in their relationship with Christ. I, like many others, have a desire to some day be in a relationship. However, this desire will never get in the way of my pursuit toward Christ. The more we rely on Christ and His love the more He reveals the beauty of life and what He has in store for our lives. I can not even begin to express all the areas of life God has blessed and I know will continue to bless in my life.
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